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I am looking for something that is extraordinary with someone that is exceptional. Something that will develop over time. Something cathartic and complete.
Me - I am single and have recently released my sublimely submissive lady of three wonderful years. So I am looking for a new friend. I am calm, collected and in control at all times. Naturally dominant and never aggressive or shouty. I use words explicitly and carefully. I'm a gentleman, professional and erudite. I am not too concerned about age or appearance. It's a mental connection that is most important. If the connection is exciting, then anything is possible. I am courteous at all times and respect is expected and shown. I'm looking for someone that knows what they want and are comfortable with it. I am strict and always expect you to follow our boundaries and rules explicitly. Especially during sexual encounters. I like to control climaxes and keep you close enough to orgasm to become completely submissive and compliant as a reward for good behaviour and attitude. Conversely, I like to use discipline to reinforce rules . I like to kiss and enjoy playing with a responsive body. If behaviour is exceptional, then sensual and tantric massage may be on the cards. I like eye contact and I like to explore boundaries while respecting limits,
You - Your are a lady, a biological one too. You are educated, well spoken and well presented. You might be young or older, perhaps exploring this exciting side of your sexuality for the first time and want this experience to begin with a man that has experience, so that you are safe, in good hands and will start this journey with a baseline to remember. You may be older, and want to begin a new journey with someone that is experienced because your time is limited and want to make the most of it. You want a release. something intuitive and cathartic. You have limits that you expect to be respected and boundaries that you would like to push. You like sex and you like to be submissive in the right circumstances. But otherwise you are comfortable with yourself and happy. Perhaps you are married or have a parter that is happy to let you come and visit, or maybe they will come with you. Or you might prefer something more discrete and secretive. You are looking for a gentleman, not a leather trousered dungeon master. You want someone that will care for you and at the same time, have the composure to discipline you as harshly as you want and need without hesitation. You like to dress well and want to dress for me. Prepare yourself for me and present yourself to me. It's expected and appreciated. You want to be treated like a lady in public and shown respect, But behind doors you are mine to use and play with as I see fit and completely.
I prefer to accommodate in my fully equipped study. But I have family in various parts of the country and visit them frequently. so it is possible to meet people regularly in other locations. I work for myself these days, having retired comfortably from the professions. I write. So we can meet during the day if that is your you time. Or evenings and weekends if you work too.
If you have read this far and find this exciting, then perhaps you can drop me a line. If I message you, it is because you caught my eye. If you reply, even to say no thank you, please be courteous.
There are many that like to play games. I am not one of them. If you are, then please do it somewhere else. To make sure that we are all genuine, I will ask to speak on Whatsapp, telephone or video call after a few simple messages. We can exchange pictures and things there too.
Here's something that happened to me today. What do people make of this? I think I was polite...What do you think? Drop me a message and let me know if Emily's response and threats are reasonable or unreasonable. This is the full conversation.
Message to EmilyPTM
All messages from/to this person:
Hi Emily
I'm a sensible guy. Dominant, and live in Stratford upon Avon (25 mins away from Daventry)
Take a look at my page and if you would like to chat and maybe meet? Drop me a. line.
Max x
2025.06.16 17:31:11
Sorry, it’s has to be no thank you. One of the sentences in my profile says “l want to find someone who is not too much older who I can give myself to”. You must have missed it.
2025.06.17 7:56:34
Hi Emily. Not too much older is subjective. But if I am too old for you, that is completely fine.
Have fun.
Max x
2025.06.17 11:41:26
Subjective? I dare you to ask 5 people what a 33 year old means by “not too much older than me” and not one will go more than 10 years older. Probably not above 40.
Just accept it and don’t make excuses. Every woman on here has met men like you who blame the woman rather than accepting they were wrong. It’s a sign of a narcissist and they make TERRIBLE doms. It’s not my fault that you’re 54. It’s not my fault that you’re in denial about your age. There wasn’t anything wrong with trying but you don’t blame the woman if she is not interested. A good man, a confident man, a self assured man would have said “yeah I know what you meant but I thought I would ask”
Or as JamesE in Leeds put it “I know I’m 50. I know you meant 30s. I just thought I’d be cheeky and try my luck and hope you thought I look more of a spring chicken than an old rooster. Check my profile and ask yourself if you feel like being charitable to the elderly” That’s the sign of a good dom. Self assured and honest and funny. He is older than I meant but he knows it. He handles it so well that I did check his profile and we are video calling tonight.
You are different. You choose to blame me for not putting a specific age and pretending that anyone on the planet thinks 54 is “not too much older” than 33
I’m posting your response on the SubsUnited website where all the women on here can see it because I think there something slightly dangerous about men who can’t accept they were wrong.
2025.06.17 14:48:39
I think you have taken this the wrong way. By subjective, I mean that people have different ideas and opinions. I did not know what yours were. So I made a sensible and polite approach. You said too old , read my profile for age preferences, which seemed unnecessarily abrupt. But how you. respond is up to you. I explained that it was not unrealistic and subjective, but if I was too old for you that was completely fine and wished you luck.
I think any person reading that (or this) on subs United or anywhere else will see me as a polite gentleman. Because that is what I am. I cant see how you can extrapolate my polite response as somehow blaming you or anyone else. They may take your replies as somewhat odd. I don't make presumptions about you or anyone else. But your presumptions about me seem quite objectionable and unnecessary. You know nothing about me whatsoever.
How does this communication stream amount to anything other than sensible and polite?
Sorry, it’s has to be no thank you. One of the sentences in my profile says “l want to find someone who is not too much older who I can give myself to”. You must have missed it.
2025.06.17 7:56:34
Hi Emily. Not too much older is subjective. But if I am too old for you, that is completely fine.
Have fun.
Max x
So publish away. I think you will be doing me a favour as people will see for themselves and reach their own conclusions.
But again. Thank you for letting me know and again, it's completely fine and again, have fun.
Max x
2025.06.17
And of course, there was a vitriolic and nonsensical response reply followed by a block .Here is her last word on it.
I know what subjective means. Thanks for adding condescending to your faults.
I could say not too far from Daventry and replies could be subjective but nobody would say “is Germany too far?” because subjective means based on personal opinions it doesn’t mean ludicrous delusions divorced from reality. Anyone who reads “not too much older than 33 and thinks 54 is within that limit isn’t using a subjective measure. They have a ludicrous delusion completely divorced from reality. Nobody think 21 years older is “not too much older”.
I also said I wanted someone who keeps themselves fit but you conveniently ignored that too. There is no way on earth that 16st 8lbs for a 5’10” man is fit.
STOP IGNORING WHAT IS ON WOMENS PROFILES JUST BECAUSE IT DOESNT SUIT YOU AND IF YOU DO IGNORE THEN DONT THEN TRY TO BE A CONDESCENDING TWAT AND BLAME THEM
I’m adding your last crap to the screenshot on the Subs United website.
Now, I don't know what you all think. But this seems to be a problem. I am in fact 54. And I have, in fact recently had a spanking relationship with a lady in her mid thirties and she appreciated my experience and manners. Not too much older - is a subjective variable statement and is determined by the statement maker, so that she can make her subjective decision based on feelings at the time. The elementary variant "much older" indicates a range beyond the 10 years that she suggests. Not Too much older would seem to rule out the extremis and does indicate an upper range. Which is of course, perfectly acceptable. It is her body and her choice after all. Just because a man or woman approaches you, you are not compelled or obligated to enter into any kind of relationship with that person.
Daventry is "not too far" from Stratford. But again is a subjective variable. It is probably too far to walk, not far enough to fly, but not too far to drive. It is about frame of reference. But, I have no idea what her frame of reference is, so I mentioned the distance in the message as a qualifying criteria. If the distance is within her definition of not too far, then she can move on to the next subjective variable in her decision making process. I politely invited her to review my page and if she was interested to drop me a line. And her reaction and responses are above.
I received a message from another lady to say that she had seen an email from Subs United and that I was somehow offensive and she too blocked me.
I know a little about Subs United, and I am sure that there is a need to identify predatory behaviour as this site could make people vulnerable to predators. However, if EmilyPTM behaves like this and makes references to SU of this type, it undermines the entire protection mechanism that it is intended to create. Assuming that the consistent rumours about Subs United are untrue and it is a genuine organisation intended as a space for subs (not just women) to share bad experiences and identify potential predators.
So why have I included the entire chat here?
Because, I have been a dominant for over 25 years. And in that time have enjoyed relationships with people of all ages, some much older, some younger and I understand the dynamic very well. I've been on this site and met many people, some great, some less than great and some nasty. I met a long term partner in here a few years ago and consider myself to be a reasonable, intelligent and respectful man. A former pro athlete and professional person. After a serious sports injury I did gain weight. After several surgeries, that weight is now under control and falling. I swim half a mile every other day. But my profile description is genuine. I have nothing to hide and am quite open about my facts.
So, having nothing to hide. Here is the conversation, in full. Now I have no idea if this person is a real person or one of the multitude of fake accounts in here. The culture of rudeness that has developed in recent years in here is disappointing, but increasingly prevalent. And I think that in the circumstances, there needs to be some balance. I'm sure that not very many (subjective variable) people will read this. But for those that do, thank you. And your feedback, good or bad, is genuinely welcome.
All I ask of anyone in here or anywhere else, is that if someone approaches you in a polite way, a simple no thank you is a polite response, if you are not interested. There is no need to behave badly and become obnoxious.
So here are all of the facts. No mystery. You can form your own opinion about me and whether you would like to engage with me and if you would feel safe. And you can form your own opinion about EmilyPTM and whether you would feel safe engaging with her.
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Mister Williams
i released my sub - Applications invited
| Sex: | Male |
| Orientation: | dominant |
| Location: | Warwick |
| Age: | 54 years |
| Sponsoring: | I don't expect money |
| Marital status: | divorced |
| I'm looking for a: | woman, couple |
| Height: | 5ft 10in (178 cm) |
| Weight: | 16st 8lb (105.2 kg) |
| I like most: | spanking |
| Light or hard: | hard |
| I like: | bondage, spanking, sex, pissing, fetish, wax, clips, other |
| Last login: | online today |
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I am looking for something that is extraordinary with someone that is exceptional. Something that will develop over time. Something cathartic and complete.
Me - I am single and have recently released my sublimely submissive lady of three wonderful years. So I am looking for a new friend. I am calm, collected and in control at all times. Naturally dominant and never aggressive or shouty. I use words explicitly and carefully. I'm a gentleman, professional and erudite. I am not too concerned about age or appearance. It's a mental connection that is most important. If the connection is exciting, then anything is possible. I am courteous at all times and respect is expected and shown. I'm looking for someone that knows what they want and are comfortable with it. I am strict and always expect you to follow our boundaries and rules explicitly. Especially during sexual encounters. I like to control climaxes and keep you close enough to orgasm to become completely submissive and compliant as a reward for good behaviour and attitude. Conversely, I like to use discipline to reinforce rules . I like to kiss and enjoy playing with a responsive body. If behaviour is exceptional, then sensual and tantric massage may be on the cards. I like eye contact and I like to explore boundaries while respecting limits,
You - Your are a lady, a biological one too. You are educated, well spoken and well presented. You might be young or older, perhaps exploring this exciting side of your sexuality for the first time and want this experience to begin with a man that has experience, so that you are safe, in good hands and will start this journey with a baseline to remember. You may be older, and want to begin a new journey with someone that is experienced because your time is limited and want to make the most of it. You want a release. something intuitive and cathartic. You have limits that you expect to be respected and boundaries that you would like to push. You like sex and you like to be submissive in the right circumstances. But otherwise you are comfortable with yourself and happy. Perhaps you are married or have a parter that is happy to let you come and visit, or maybe they will come with you. Or you might prefer something more discrete and secretive. You are looking for a gentleman, not a leather trousered dungeon master. You want someone that will care for you and at the same time, have the composure to discipline you as harshly as you want and need without hesitation. You like to dress well and want to dress for me. Prepare yourself for me and present yourself to me. It's expected and appreciated. You want to be treated like a lady in public and shown respect, But behind doors you are mine to use and play with as I see fit and completely.
I prefer to accommodate in my fully equipped study. But I have family in various parts of the country and visit them frequently. so it is possible to meet people regularly in other locations. I work for myself these days, having retired comfortably from the professions. I write. So we can meet during the day if that is your you time. Or evenings and weekends if you work too.
If you have read this far and find this exciting, then perhaps you can drop me a line. If I message you, it is because you caught my eye. If you reply, even to say no thank you, please be courteous.
There are many that like to play games. I am not one of them. If you are, then please do it somewhere else. To make sure that we are all genuine, I will ask to speak on Whatsapp, telephone or video call after a few simple messages. We can exchange pictures and things there too.
Here's something that happened to me today. What do people make of this? I think I was polite...What do you think? Drop me a message and let me know if Emily's response and threats are reasonable or unreasonable. This is the full conversation.
Message to EmilyPTM
All messages from/to this person:
Hi Emily
I'm a sensible guy. Dominant, and live in Stratford upon Avon (25 mins away from Daventry)
Take a look at my page and if you would like to chat and maybe meet? Drop me a. line.
Max x
2025.06.16 17:31:11
Sorry, it’s has to be no thank you. One of the sentences in my profile says “l want to find someone who is not too much older who I can give myself to”. You must have missed it.
2025.06.17 7:56:34
Hi Emily. Not too much older is subjective. But if I am too old for you, that is completely fine.
Have fun.
Max x
2025.06.17 11:41:26
Subjective? I dare you to ask 5 people what a 33 year old means by “not too much older than me” and not one will go more than 10 years older. Probably not above 40.
Just accept it and don’t make excuses. Every woman on here has met men like you who blame the woman rather than accepting they were wrong. It’s a sign of a narcissist and they make TERRIBLE doms. It’s not my fault that you’re 54. It’s not my fault that you’re in denial about your age. There wasn’t anything wrong with trying but you don’t blame the woman if she is not interested. A good man, a confident man, a self assured man would have said “yeah I know what you meant but I thought I would ask”
Or as JamesE in Leeds put it “I know I’m 50. I know you meant 30s. I just thought I’d be cheeky and try my luck and hope you thought I look more of a spring chicken than an old rooster. Check my profile and ask yourself if you feel like being charitable to the elderly” That’s the sign of a good dom. Self assured and honest and funny. He is older than I meant but he knows it. He handles it so well that I did check his profile and we are video calling tonight.
You are different. You choose to blame me for not putting a specific age and pretending that anyone on the planet thinks 54 is “not too much older” than 33
I’m posting your response on the SubsUnited website where all the women on here can see it because I think there something slightly dangerous about men who can’t accept they were wrong.
2025.06.17 14:48:39
I think you have taken this the wrong way. By subjective, I mean that people have different ideas and opinions. I did not know what yours were. So I made a sensible and polite approach. You said too old , read my profile for age preferences, which seemed unnecessarily abrupt. But how you. respond is up to you. I explained that it was not unrealistic and subjective, but if I was too old for you that was completely fine and wished you luck.
I think any person reading that (or this) on subs United or anywhere else will see me as a polite gentleman. Because that is what I am. I cant see how you can extrapolate my polite response as somehow blaming you or anyone else. They may take your replies as somewhat odd. I don't make presumptions about you or anyone else. But your presumptions about me seem quite objectionable and unnecessary. You know nothing about me whatsoever.
How does this communication stream amount to anything other than sensible and polite?
Sorry, it’s has to be no thank you. One of the sentences in my profile says “l want to find someone who is not too much older who I can give myself to”. You must have missed it.
2025.06.17 7:56:34
Hi Emily. Not too much older is subjective. But if I am too old for you, that is completely fine.
Have fun.
Max x
So publish away. I think you will be doing me a favour as people will see for themselves and reach their own conclusions.
But again. Thank you for letting me know and again, it's completely fine and again, have fun.
Max x
2025.06.17
And of course, there was a vitriolic and nonsensical response reply followed by a block .Here is her last word on it.
I know what subjective means. Thanks for adding condescending to your faults.
I could say not too far from Daventry and replies could be subjective but nobody would say “is Germany too far?” because subjective means based on personal opinions it doesn’t mean ludicrous delusions divorced from reality. Anyone who reads “not too much older than 33 and thinks 54 is within that limit isn’t using a subjective measure. They have a ludicrous delusion completely divorced from reality. Nobody think 21 years older is “not too much older”.
I also said I wanted someone who keeps themselves fit but you conveniently ignored that too. There is no way on earth that 16st 8lbs for a 5’10” man is fit.
STOP IGNORING WHAT IS ON WOMENS PROFILES JUST BECAUSE IT DOESNT SUIT YOU AND IF YOU DO IGNORE THEN DONT THEN TRY TO BE A CONDESCENDING TWAT AND BLAME THEM
I’m adding your last crap to the screenshot on the Subs United website.
Now, I don't know what you all think. But this seems to be a problem. I am in fact 54. And I have, in fact recently had a spanking relationship with a lady in her mid thirties and she appreciated my experience and manners. Not too much older - is a subjective variable statement and is determined by the statement maker, so that she can make her subjective decision based on feelings at the time. The elementary variant "much older" indicates a range beyond the 10 years that she suggests. Not Too much older would seem to rule out the extremis and does indicate an upper range. Which is of course, perfectly acceptable. It is her body and her choice after all. Just because a man or woman approaches you, you are not compelled or obligated to enter into any kind of relationship with that person.
Daventry is "not too far" from Stratford. But again is a subjective variable. It is probably too far to walk, not far enough to fly, but not too far to drive. It is about frame of reference. But, I have no idea what her frame of reference is, so I mentioned the distance in the message as a qualifying criteria. If the distance is within her definition of not too far, then she can move on to the next subjective variable in her decision making process. I politely invited her to review my page and if she was interested to drop me a line. And her reaction and responses are above.
I received a message from another lady to say that she had seen an email from Subs United and that I was somehow offensive and she too blocked me.
I know a little about Subs United, and I am sure that there is a need to identify predatory behaviour as this site could make people vulnerable to predators. However, if EmilyPTM behaves like this and makes references to SU of this type, it undermines the entire protection mechanism that it is intended to create. Assuming that the consistent rumours about Subs United are untrue and it is a genuine organisation intended as a space for subs (not just women) to share bad experiences and identify potential predators.
So why have I included the entire chat here?
Because, I have been a dominant for over 25 years. And in that time have enjoyed relationships with people of all ages, some much older, some younger and I understand the dynamic very well. I've been on this site and met many people, some great, some less than great and some nasty. I met a long term partner in here a few years ago and consider myself to be a reasonable, intelligent and respectful man. A former pro athlete and professional person. After a serious sports injury I did gain weight. After several surgeries, that weight is now under control and falling. I swim half a mile every other day. But my profile description is genuine. I have nothing to hide and am quite open about my facts.
So, having nothing to hide. Here is the conversation, in full. Now I have no idea if this person is a real person or one of the multitude of fake accounts in here. The culture of rudeness that has developed in recent years in here is disappointing, but increasingly prevalent. And I think that in the circumstances, there needs to be some balance. I'm sure that not very many (subjective variable) people will read this. But for those that do, thank you. And your feedback, good or bad, is genuinely welcome.
All I ask of anyone in here or anywhere else, is that if someone approaches you in a polite way, a simple no thank you is a polite response, if you are not interested. There is no need to behave badly and become obnoxious.
So here are all of the facts. No mystery. You can form your own opinion about me and whether you would like to engage with me and if you would feel safe. And you can form your own opinion about EmilyPTM and whether you would feel safe engaging with her.
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