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Firstly, although I'd ideally like an LTR, I'm happy to do more casual sessions and training sessions if you've no interest in a LTR.
How It All Began…
It started, as so many things do, with a conversation. Thirteen years ago, newly divorced and quietly curious, I found myself talking to a Domme friend who simply said, "If you're interested in BDSM, why not start with spanking?" It was casual advice—but it lit a spark.
Not long after, I met her. A 23-year-old Chinese student, untouched by experience, completely new to both sex and submission. What began as innocent exploration—bare-bottomed spankings and curious questions—quickly deepened into something much more. We grew together, became Dom and sub, discovered boundaries and broke them gently. Our journey lasted two years, until her time in the UK came to an end. But those years… they were the start of everything.
Since then, I’ve walked many paths within this world. I've had play partners, yes—but also a seven-year, 24/7 TPE D/s dynamic that shaped much of who I am as a Dom today. That relationship ended in 2022, and now I find myself drawn once again to the thrill of connection, discipline, and desire. More active on FetLife, cautiously circling munches and events… it's time to step back in.
What Drives Me
There’s something timeless about the D/s dynamic. I’m especially drawn to the traditional domestic discipline model—the calm authority of a Head of Household, the grace of a woman who submits not because she must, but because she chooses to. A dynamic built on trust, structure, and accountability.
Spanking is where I’m most at home. There’s a rhythm to it, a language spoken without words. Whether it’s a firm correction over the knee, the sharp kiss of a cane, or a slow, sensual build to release, I love it all. I own a collection of implements—belts, straps, crops, paddles, and yes, the occasional hairbrush or cane. If you're especially wriggly, restraint may be in order. And if you give me reason to bare your bottom… well, I won’t hesitate.
It’s not just about punishment. It’s also about intimacy, about control and surrender, about knowing that when you’re across my lap, the world fades away and you are seen.
The Submissive I Seek
You don’t need to be perfect. But you should be willing. Loyal, obedient, and proud of your submission. Someone who finds fulfilment in rules and structure, who understands that correction isn’t cruelty—it’s care. You’ll follow agreed expectations and take your punishments, impact or otherwise, with grace and understanding. You’ll take care of yourself, not just because I expect it—but because you want to be the best version of yourself, under my guidance.
You should be curious. Open to play, to growth, to testing your limits. But also able to hold a conversation, laugh over dinner, share your thoughts without fear. This dynamic is as much emotional as it is physical, and I want a connection built on both.
What I Offer as a Dom
I bring structure, clarity, and calm. With me, you’ll know where you stand. Discipline will be firm but fair, given with the aim of helping you thrive—not just as a submissive, but as a person.
I value communication, openness, and trust above all. Your safety—emotionally and physically—is non-negotiable. I’ll guide you steadily, helping you explore what surrender really means in a space that feels secure and grounding.
This isn’t about barking orders or playing power games. This is about building something deeper. Something real. If you’re ready to step into that space, to let go and submit, I’m ready to lead you there.
Outside the Scene
Beyond the ropes and rules, I live a good life. I’ve got my own home, run my own business, and hold a degree in Computer Forensics. I also teach Computer Science—which means I’m a bit of a geek with a teacher’s patience and a love of problem-solving.
In my downtime, I hit the gym, go for runs, bury myself in a book, or lose myself in the kind of music that never gets old. Queen? Absolutely. Anything 70s or 80s? You’ve got my attention. I love long countryside walks, good food, and movie nights curled up with someone who makes the world feel a little softer.
I’m laid-back, easy to talk to, rarely rattled, and grounded in calm, compassionate strength. If you’ve made it this far, I’m guessing something resonated.
So go on—say hello. You never know where a good conversation might lead.
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Subtamer71
Seasoned Dom looking for his obedient little subby
| Sex: | Male |
| Orientation: | dominant |
| Location: | Leicester |
| Age: | 54 years |
| Sponsoring: | I don't expect money |
| Marital status: | single |
| I'm looking for a: | woman |
| Height: | 6ft 1in (185 cm) |
| Weight: | 11st 7lb (73 kg) |
| I like most: | spanking |
| Light or hard: | hard |
| I like: | bondage, spanking, pain, sex, fetish, wax, clips, other |
| Last login: | in last 30 days |
Message him for free
Remember him
Firstly, although I'd ideally like an LTR, I'm happy to do more casual sessions and training sessions if you've no interest in a LTR.
How It All Began…
It started, as so many things do, with a conversation. Thirteen years ago, newly divorced and quietly curious, I found myself talking to a Domme friend who simply said, "If you're interested in BDSM, why not start with spanking?" It was casual advice—but it lit a spark.
Not long after, I met her. A 23-year-old Chinese student, untouched by experience, completely new to both sex and submission. What began as innocent exploration—bare-bottomed spankings and curious questions—quickly deepened into something much more. We grew together, became Dom and sub, discovered boundaries and broke them gently. Our journey lasted two years, until her time in the UK came to an end. But those years… they were the start of everything.
Since then, I’ve walked many paths within this world. I've had play partners, yes—but also a seven-year, 24/7 TPE D/s dynamic that shaped much of who I am as a Dom today. That relationship ended in 2022, and now I find myself drawn once again to the thrill of connection, discipline, and desire. More active on FetLife, cautiously circling munches and events… it's time to step back in.
What Drives Me
There’s something timeless about the D/s dynamic. I’m especially drawn to the traditional domestic discipline model—the calm authority of a Head of Household, the grace of a woman who submits not because she must, but because she chooses to. A dynamic built on trust, structure, and accountability.
Spanking is where I’m most at home. There’s a rhythm to it, a language spoken without words. Whether it’s a firm correction over the knee, the sharp kiss of a cane, or a slow, sensual build to release, I love it all. I own a collection of implements—belts, straps, crops, paddles, and yes, the occasional hairbrush or cane. If you're especially wriggly, restraint may be in order. And if you give me reason to bare your bottom… well, I won’t hesitate.
It’s not just about punishment. It’s also about intimacy, about control and surrender, about knowing that when you’re across my lap, the world fades away and you are seen.
The Submissive I Seek
You don’t need to be perfect. But you should be willing. Loyal, obedient, and proud of your submission. Someone who finds fulfilment in rules and structure, who understands that correction isn’t cruelty—it’s care. You’ll follow agreed expectations and take your punishments, impact or otherwise, with grace and understanding. You’ll take care of yourself, not just because I expect it—but because you want to be the best version of yourself, under my guidance.
You should be curious. Open to play, to growth, to testing your limits. But also able to hold a conversation, laugh over dinner, share your thoughts without fear. This dynamic is as much emotional as it is physical, and I want a connection built on both.
What I Offer as a Dom
I bring structure, clarity, and calm. With me, you’ll know where you stand. Discipline will be firm but fair, given with the aim of helping you thrive—not just as a submissive, but as a person.
I value communication, openness, and trust above all. Your safety—emotionally and physically—is non-negotiable. I’ll guide you steadily, helping you explore what surrender really means in a space that feels secure and grounding.
This isn’t about barking orders or playing power games. This is about building something deeper. Something real. If you’re ready to step into that space, to let go and submit, I’m ready to lead you there.
Outside the Scene
Beyond the ropes and rules, I live a good life. I’ve got my own home, run my own business, and hold a degree in Computer Forensics. I also teach Computer Science—which means I’m a bit of a geek with a teacher’s patience and a love of problem-solving.
In my downtime, I hit the gym, go for runs, bury myself in a book, or lose myself in the kind of music that never gets old. Queen? Absolutely. Anything 70s or 80s? You’ve got my attention. I love long countryside walks, good food, and movie nights curled up with someone who makes the world feel a little softer.
I’m laid-back, easy to talk to, rarely rattled, and grounded in calm, compassionate strength. If you’ve made it this far, I’m guessing something resonated.
So go on—say hello. You never know where a good conversation might lead.
go back to search results