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08/07/2024
I've realised I should update my profile to reflect who I am and what I am looking for in someone else. It has been about a decade since I originally wrote my profile on this site. Much of it was carried over from the good old days of informedconsent.co.uk.
Day to day I am a normal guy with a completely normal life. I am retired but used to work in the aircraft industry. Before that I was in the Army.
I am Single (divorced), no children, own my home, car etc. The beard is not permanent. Sometimes I shave my head cos cba with it.
BDSM, D/s or just kink, has been a part of my sexual life for a long time. It is not something I live and breathe anymore. That's an important part to know. It is however, something that the one I am looking for, I hope to share with at some level. I am quite open and honest about my interest in BDSM particularly the D/s side of it and that I am kinky minded. Hence this profile. Does it mean I am only looking for someone who wants or enjoys impact play or being bound naked and exposed etc. No. Does it mean you have to want to go to orgies involving dwarves, custard and balloons. No.
Though more than likely there could be some of that involved if you desire. Not sure about the dwarves though.
I am a dominant man. Not in a, do as I say, call me Master way. I lead, I am proactive in my manner. I can and do influence the direction of conversation or action. When a decision has to be made, I make it and people usually follow. I do not think I am arrogant but I am confident in myself and what I do.
I am searching for those who have felt that within their sexual side, they want more. Or at least want to explore Role-play, Dom/sub, sex slavery, humiliation, shame, extremes, pleasures, kinks, needs and more. Those are terms you may have heard. They may not exactly fit who or what you are or do. A fast example is someone may well enjoy physical bondage or receiving punishment but in no way consider themselves a submissive or a slave.
Ultimately, I am looking for that one woman I spend my life with. Until then I continue to explore. I have been involved with BDSM and things kinky from my early 20's. If you read 50 shades of Grey, try the books by A. N. Roquelaure (also known as Anne Rice of "Interview with a vampire", the sleeping beauty trilogy). They were written far earlier and are far more enjoyable. It was reading one of those in my teens, that awoke a desire for kink in my mind. Point to note, they get more extreme book by book.
My Ideal Person?
Wouldn't life be so much easier if I only knew that. Someone I can fall in love with and returns that love. Ideally.
Until then? Someone who shares an attraction and connection with myself. Not going to get far without those two. Someone I can really communicate with on all levels. Develop a level of trust and bond that allows us both to discover one another truly. Someone who is looking for fun and depending on how that goes, develop that fun to whatever levels we can find. Making an emotional, mental as well as physical connection is what I hope to achieve by meeting you.
With having a profile on here I am not specifically looking to meet a sub or a sex slave. I'm looking to meet an openminded woman who would like to explore sex in and out of so called norms. Possibly one who wants to find a partner for life.
Doing the so called vanilla things are just as important if we are to really bond and know one another.
One size fits all! Unfortunately, it does not. I have preferences, as do we all. Ladies over size 16 bottom is more than my taste prefers. A woman with curves is wonderful but to a point.
If a bit of kinky sex with handcuffs and your bottom being spanked is what you're mainly after, Thats fine. Done that but there is so much more you could explore. If you have the courage and desire to adventure and expand your sex life.
Terminology and meanings:
BDSM/Kink represents a variety of erotic practices involving dominance and submission, role-playing, restraint and other interpersonal dynamics. Given the wide range of practices, some of which may be engaged in by people who don't consider themselves as practicing BDSM/Kink, inclusion in the BDSM community and/or subculture is usually dependant on self-identification and shared experience. Interest in BDSM/Kink can range from one-time experimentation to a lifestyle, and there is debate over whether a BDSM or kink identity also constitutes a form of alternate sexual orientation. That's BDSM/Kink in a nutshell.
Within BDSM and kink many feel informed consent is required. An informed consent can be said to have been given based upon a clear appreciation and understanding of the facts, implications and future consequences of an action. In order to give informed consent, the individual concerned must have adequate reasoning faculties and be in possession of all relevant facts at the time consent is given.
Or, be of relative sound mind and have some idea of what you may be getting into. Fruit loops and nutjobs need not bother contacting me.
A submissive is a person who submits or potentially submits to another. Within a BDSM only context, submissive is sometimes synonymous with bottom. Submissive's can vary in how serious they take their position, training and situation. Reasons for this include relief from responsibility, being the object of attention and affection, gaining a sense of security, showing off endurance or working through issues of shame. There are more reason’s but those are generally the more common one’s.
This does not mean you are a meek, sheep like person in your day-to-day life. In fact, most submissive players tend to have strong personalities, even dominant work roles or lives. I am not looking for someone who is a doormat to be trodden upon.
Until a submissive is ready and trusts her Dom totally, she actually retains ultimate control with play. This is through use of a safe word or signal (hard to talk with your mouth full). Use of that signal/word ends all play and her Dom will respect that. She will have set her limits on play/events and while these may be tested and pushed, breaking them will leave a dominant without a sub. Her hard limits/no go areas should never be attempted even teasingly. All limits should be set well before any meetings or play occurs.
Honesty and communication are vital. Trust is built upon, earned and not a right. Over time, safe words etc will not be needed and play goes on the Dom’s knowledge and ability of reading his sub. The trust that has been built, allowing more control to be given to the Dom until the sub gives herself utterly to her Dom. That’s isn’t going to happen overnight.
E L James has made a fortune out of the 50 Shades series of books (not read them fully or seen the film/s). However, she has never had a real BDSM encounter herself. While erotic in a Mills and Boon way, what she wrote compares in no way to real BDSM experiences. They did bring BDSM into mainstream lives though. Ann Summers and Co is quietly making a profit from all the handcuffs they seem to sell recently. All very nice. It just means there are a lot of couples out there engaging in some harmless fun. It has also woken some strong feelings or desires in many, things they may not have realised they liked the idea of before. Maybe that is you?
Exploring - You must want to explore, learn new and exciting experiences and develop your submissive nature. Through experimentation and experiences, you must want to open doors and progress deeper and deeper, working your boundaries and limits to meet mine. Alternative passion is about pleasurable experience, that can be explored beyond your means, go with it.
Communication - Ask questions, to the most intimate details. Ask again. Anything that is important to you should be asked. Before and after...(just not right after). To me this is important...I cannot read your mind! I can make educated guesses but without your input and ideas I cannot fully realise your personal desires.
Limits - Everyone has limits, and as time goes on, they will change as you are exposed to more experiences. Keep an open mind. Know what you want, to fulfil your desires...and I know mine. SAFE, SANE & CONSENSUAL (SSC) I don't run with. Risk aware, consensual kink (RaCK) is more my angle. There is a difference.
First Date
Those of you who made it this far and have not been bored, please feel free to message me.
If what I am and what interests me is something you have a genuine interest knowing more about, write, I will reply. Remember, this is just an aspect of me, not all of me. Other aspects of me enjoy a cuddle, talking, holding hands and normal vanilla fun. The BDSM and kinky side is just a part of me I want you to know from the start.
Any initial meeting is set at the level you prefer, probably in a café for coffee, for most. Or something a little more adventurous if you have the appetite.
Relationship goal? Wide open.
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Bindnuse
Kink is not my life, I simply enjoy it.
| Sex: | Male |
| Orientation: | dominant |
| Location: | Swindon |
| Age: | 56 years |
| Sponsoring: | I don't expect money |
| Marital status: | divorced |
| I'm looking for a: | woman, couple |
| Height: | 6ft 0in (183 cm) |
| Weight: | 13st 11lb (87.5 kg) |
| I like most: | bondage |
| Light or hard: | hard |
| I like: | bondage, spanking, pain, sex, pissing, fetish, fisting, other |
| Last login: | online today |
Message him for free
Remember him
08/07/2024
I've realised I should update my profile to reflect who I am and what I am looking for in someone else. It has been about a decade since I originally wrote my profile on this site. Much of it was carried over from the good old days of informedconsent.co.uk.
Day to day I am a normal guy with a completely normal life. I am retired but used to work in the aircraft industry. Before that I was in the Army.
I am Single (divorced), no children, own my home, car etc. The beard is not permanent. Sometimes I shave my head cos cba with it.
BDSM, D/s or just kink, has been a part of my sexual life for a long time. It is not something I live and breathe anymore. That's an important part to know. It is however, something that the one I am looking for, I hope to share with at some level. I am quite open and honest about my interest in BDSM particularly the D/s side of it and that I am kinky minded. Hence this profile. Does it mean I am only looking for someone who wants or enjoys impact play or being bound naked and exposed etc. No. Does it mean you have to want to go to orgies involving dwarves, custard and balloons. No.
Though more than likely there could be some of that involved if you desire. Not sure about the dwarves though.
I am a dominant man. Not in a, do as I say, call me Master way. I lead, I am proactive in my manner. I can and do influence the direction of conversation or action. When a decision has to be made, I make it and people usually follow. I do not think I am arrogant but I am confident in myself and what I do.
I am searching for those who have felt that within their sexual side, they want more. Or at least want to explore Role-play, Dom/sub, sex slavery, humiliation, shame, extremes, pleasures, kinks, needs and more. Those are terms you may have heard. They may not exactly fit who or what you are or do. A fast example is someone may well enjoy physical bondage or receiving punishment but in no way consider themselves a submissive or a slave.
Ultimately, I am looking for that one woman I spend my life with. Until then I continue to explore. I have been involved with BDSM and things kinky from my early 20's. If you read 50 shades of Grey, try the books by A. N. Roquelaure (also known as Anne Rice of "Interview with a vampire", the sleeping beauty trilogy). They were written far earlier and are far more enjoyable. It was reading one of those in my teens, that awoke a desire for kink in my mind. Point to note, they get more extreme book by book.
My Ideal Person?
Wouldn't life be so much easier if I only knew that. Someone I can fall in love with and returns that love. Ideally.
Until then? Someone who shares an attraction and connection with myself. Not going to get far without those two. Someone I can really communicate with on all levels. Develop a level of trust and bond that allows us both to discover one another truly. Someone who is looking for fun and depending on how that goes, develop that fun to whatever levels we can find. Making an emotional, mental as well as physical connection is what I hope to achieve by meeting you.
With having a profile on here I am not specifically looking to meet a sub or a sex slave. I'm looking to meet an openminded woman who would like to explore sex in and out of so called norms. Possibly one who wants to find a partner for life.
Doing the so called vanilla things are just as important if we are to really bond and know one another.
One size fits all! Unfortunately, it does not. I have preferences, as do we all. Ladies over size 16 bottom is more than my taste prefers. A woman with curves is wonderful but to a point.
If a bit of kinky sex with handcuffs and your bottom being spanked is what you're mainly after, Thats fine. Done that but there is so much more you could explore. If you have the courage and desire to adventure and expand your sex life.
Terminology and meanings:
BDSM/Kink represents a variety of erotic practices involving dominance and submission, role-playing, restraint and other interpersonal dynamics. Given the wide range of practices, some of which may be engaged in by people who don't consider themselves as practicing BDSM/Kink, inclusion in the BDSM community and/or subculture is usually dependant on self-identification and shared experience. Interest in BDSM/Kink can range from one-time experimentation to a lifestyle, and there is debate over whether a BDSM or kink identity also constitutes a form of alternate sexual orientation. That's BDSM/Kink in a nutshell.
Within BDSM and kink many feel informed consent is required. An informed consent can be said to have been given based upon a clear appreciation and understanding of the facts, implications and future consequences of an action. In order to give informed consent, the individual concerned must have adequate reasoning faculties and be in possession of all relevant facts at the time consent is given.
Or, be of relative sound mind and have some idea of what you may be getting into. Fruit loops and nutjobs need not bother contacting me.
A submissive is a person who submits or potentially submits to another. Within a BDSM only context, submissive is sometimes synonymous with bottom. Submissive's can vary in how serious they take their position, training and situation. Reasons for this include relief from responsibility, being the object of attention and affection, gaining a sense of security, showing off endurance or working through issues of shame. There are more reason’s but those are generally the more common one’s.
This does not mean you are a meek, sheep like person in your day-to-day life. In fact, most submissive players tend to have strong personalities, even dominant work roles or lives. I am not looking for someone who is a doormat to be trodden upon.
Until a submissive is ready and trusts her Dom totally, she actually retains ultimate control with play. This is through use of a safe word or signal (hard to talk with your mouth full). Use of that signal/word ends all play and her Dom will respect that. She will have set her limits on play/events and while these may be tested and pushed, breaking them will leave a dominant without a sub. Her hard limits/no go areas should never be attempted even teasingly. All limits should be set well before any meetings or play occurs.
Honesty and communication are vital. Trust is built upon, earned and not a right. Over time, safe words etc will not be needed and play goes on the Dom’s knowledge and ability of reading his sub. The trust that has been built, allowing more control to be given to the Dom until the sub gives herself utterly to her Dom. That’s isn’t going to happen overnight.
E L James has made a fortune out of the 50 Shades series of books (not read them fully or seen the film/s). However, she has never had a real BDSM encounter herself. While erotic in a Mills and Boon way, what she wrote compares in no way to real BDSM experiences. They did bring BDSM into mainstream lives though. Ann Summers and Co is quietly making a profit from all the handcuffs they seem to sell recently. All very nice. It just means there are a lot of couples out there engaging in some harmless fun. It has also woken some strong feelings or desires in many, things they may not have realised they liked the idea of before. Maybe that is you?
Exploring - You must want to explore, learn new and exciting experiences and develop your submissive nature. Through experimentation and experiences, you must want to open doors and progress deeper and deeper, working your boundaries and limits to meet mine. Alternative passion is about pleasurable experience, that can be explored beyond your means, go with it.
Communication - Ask questions, to the most intimate details. Ask again. Anything that is important to you should be asked. Before and after...(just not right after). To me this is important...I cannot read your mind! I can make educated guesses but without your input and ideas I cannot fully realise your personal desires.
Limits - Everyone has limits, and as time goes on, they will change as you are exposed to more experiences. Keep an open mind. Know what you want, to fulfil your desires...and I know mine. SAFE, SANE & CONSENSUAL (SSC) I don't run with. Risk aware, consensual kink (RaCK) is more my angle. There is a difference.
First Date
Those of you who made it this far and have not been bored, please feel free to message me.
If what I am and what interests me is something you have a genuine interest knowing more about, write, I will reply. Remember, this is just an aspect of me, not all of me. Other aspects of me enjoy a cuddle, talking, holding hands and normal vanilla fun. The BDSM and kinky side is just a part of me I want you to know from the start.
Any initial meeting is set at the level you prefer, probably in a café for coffee, for most. Or something a little more adventurous if you have the appetite.
Relationship goal? Wide open.
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